Pop Quiz: When To Admit That You’re Wrong
Being wrong is a vital part of science and scepticism. Part of the whole point of science is to try to disprove whatever theory you’ve come up with; to try to prove yourself wrong in any way you can. Atheists and sceptics are often accused of being as dogmatic and close-minded as the True Believers they argue with, but the whole point of scepticism is to try to get to the truth of issues and form (and change) opinions based on the evidence. I don’t believe in psychic powers, but I’ll certainly change my mind tomorrow if I suddenly see good solid evidence of their existence.
As a sceptical teacher, I see it as my job to model good sceptical behaviour for my pupils. I want to encourage them to think and to question the world around them and so I make sure that they see me doing those things as much as possible. This includes letting them see that I’m willing to admit that I’m wrong. Teenagers can often find it more than a little difficult to accept personal responsibility for some of their actions and so they need to see other people doing just that. I feel quite strongly that a teacher who’s willing to admit their own mistakes gains more respect than one who refuses to admit that they’re ever wrong in front of pupils.
This is especially important when you’ve just accidentally bullied a disabled child in front of an entire class.
A few months ago I got into a confrontation with a pupil in a class I was covering. I didn’t know any of the pupils in the class, which meant that I was in more of a “stern hard-ass” mode than I would normally be with my own classes. Someone at the back of the room had been making silly noises and I was CONVINCED that I knew who it was. I even convinced myself that I’d seen the boy in question doing it out of the corner of my eye.
One thing led to another and I ended up telling the young man to step outside for a “restorative conversation”, as per our behaviour policy. I should have realised that something was amiss when, after I’d told him to leave, the entire class went awkwardly quiet. The boy went bright red, stood up, and moved towards the door.
The thing about mild cerebral palsy is that it can be barely noticeable when someone is sitting behind a desk, but it really really makes itself known when someone’s forced to stand up and walk across a deathly quiet classroom. It can also make a person quite self-conscious; certainly self-conscious enough not to argue with an angry teacher in front of an entire class.
This boy hadn’t been making the noises at all. It had been the kid two seats over. I know this now because that person admitted to it when the tension in the room because too much to bear. I was completely and utterly wrong, and I’d managed to totally humiliate an innocent young man in front of an entire class.
I was more embarrassed than I’ve ever been in a classroom. I apologised profusely to the boy, asked him to sit back down, and hung my head in shame. The rest of the class looked like they were wishing for collective ground-swallowing incident. The only thing I could do to relieve some of the tension was to admit to the class that I’d made a mistake, acted rashly, and that I was hugely sorry. I caught the boy on the way out at the end of the period to apologise again, by which point he had returned to a much more natural colour. It all worked out and I’ve worked with the boy in question several times since then. He always teases me about it, but I definitely feel that the fact that I apologised publicly and admitted my mistake helped to avert what could have turned into protracted animosity.
For today’s Pop Quiz, I’d like to know about time when you might have had to admit to a mistake in front of students (hideously embarrassing and borderline-immoral or not).
Has this ever happened to you? What happened and how did you deal with it?
Do you feel that seeing teachers admit their own mistakes is important for young people?
Have you ever called a teacher or lecturer out on their mistake? How did they respond?
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